Crazy Love Group Questions Session 3 (Pride)

Theme: "Love does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud.” 1 Corinthians 13:4


Crazy Love Group Questions  Session 3 (March 19-15)
Purpose of your Crazy Love Group: If the greatest of all is love, we need to have a clear understanding of what God expects in the realm of love. Love is a tangible and concrete outworking of one's relationship with God. The goal is to be challenged to a higher standard of relationships.

What’s the verse we are using? 1 Corinthians 13:4-8,13 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails."…now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."

Key dates to calendar:

• March 19 (8 am – 12 pm) – School Acts of Kindness
• April 12-14 (Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday) – Attend one Feed My Starving Children as a group
• April 16/17 – Last weekend of the Love series

Guidelines for your Group

1. Confidentiality: Whatever we share in the group stays in the group.
2. I statements: Speak about yourself; don’t share about someone else’s story.
3. Respect: Share your opinions and respect other people’s opinions.
4. Time: Show up on time or let someone know if you are running late.
5. Participate: Be willing to participate in the Acts of Love.
6. Mindfulness: Allow other people to speak; don’t dominate the time.
7. Fixing: Don’t try to fix someone; allow people their process.
8. Sharing: Be as honest as you feel capable of being about the topic.
9. Weekend: Try to come on the weekend for the 7 weeks to better prepare you for the love group discussion.
10. Fun: Enjoy the people in your group and enjoy the journey God has you on concerning the topic.


Look Back (Reviewing the past week)

• Review the covenant
• If there is anyone new make introductions, how long been attending the Crossing, how did you find the church, kids, married, profession?
• If you participated in the school make over, how was the experience?
• Have you found yourself being kinder or more patient? How?


Look Up (Looking Up at God’s perspective)

Tim mentioned that jealousy says, “I want what you have!” Envy says, “I not only want you have, but I want you to lose what you’ve got and pride says, “Look what I’ve got, it’s better than what you have…look at me, I’m totally better than anything you are.”

#1 Do you agree with that statement, why or why not?

In the message Tim shared that envy and pride causes conflict & arguments which ignites resentment and misunderstandings. He mentioned some of the verses below. (Read them out loud)

o “Do you know where your fights and arguments come from? They come from the selfish desires that make war inside you.” James 4:1
o “Let us not be ambitious for our own reputations, for that only means making each other jealous.” Galatians 5:26
o “Don’t act big and don’t think you know it all.” Romans 12:16
o “Pride leads to arguments…” Proverbs 13:10
o “Our lives were full of resentment and envy. We hated others and they hated us.” Titus 3:3
o “For where you find envy...there you find disorder and every evil practice.” James 3:16
o “You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:5

#2 Why do you think we carry so much pride?


Look In (Applying this into my life.)

The only way to end envy is to resist comparing myself to others. The Bible says…(read outloud)
o “We do not dare to put ourselves in the same group with those who think that they are very important. We do not compare ourselves to them...this shows they know nothing.” 2 Corinthians 10:12

o “Let everyone be sure to do his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work done well, and won’t need to compare himself with someone.” Galatians 6:4

#1 In what area do you compare yourself to others?

#2 If the only way to end envy and pride is to recognize our specialness what makes you special / unique?

o “You saw me before I was born and scheduled every day of my life before I began to breathe.” Psalm 139:15


Look Out (Taking a step to do something about what I learned)

#1 The only way to end envy and pride is to rejoice with what I have and who provided it. What are 2 things that God has done for you or done in you that has blessed your life?

o “It is better to be satisfied with what you have than to be always wanting something else.” Ecclesiastes 6:9
o “I have learned to be satisfied with the things I have and with everything that happens.” Philippians 4:11
o “What are you so puffed up about? What do you have that God hasn’t given you? And if all you have is from God, why act as though you have accomplished something on your own.” 1 Corinthians 4:7
o “Every good gift and every perfect present comes from heaven; it comes down from God...” James 1:17

#2 The only way to end envy and pride is to ultimately respond to others in love, NOT with boasting or ego. Who can you boast about this week? And what could you say about them?

#3 This week I need prayer for……………………