Topic: Love is not easily angered “Love does not become angry easily. It keeps no records of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:5
Purpose of your Crazy Love Group: If the greatest of all is love, we need to have a clear understanding of what God expects in the realm of love. The goal is to be challenged to a higher standard of relationships.
What’s the verse we are using? 1 Corinthians 13:4-8,13 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails."…now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."
Themes for each week of the Crazy Love series:
April 2/3: Love is not easily angered and keeps no records of wrongs
April 9/10: Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth
April 16/17: Love always trusts, protects, hopes, perseveres
Guidelines for your Group
1. Confidentiality: Whatever we share in the group stays in the group.
2. I statements: Speak about yourself; don’t share about someone else’s story.
3. Respect: Share your opinions and respect other people’s opinions.
4. Time: Show up on time or let someone know if you are running late.
5. Participate: Be willing to participate in the Acts of Love.
6. Mindfulness: Allow other people to speak; don’t dominate the time.
7. Fixing: Don’t try to fix someone; allow people their process.
8. Sharing: Be as honest as you feel capable of being about the topic.
9. Weekend: Try to come on the weekend for the 7 weeks to better prepare you for thelove group discussion.
10. Fun: Enjoy the people in your group and enjoy the journey God has you on concerning the topic.
Look Back (Looking Back over this past week)
• Review the covenant
• If you are new, make introductions, how long been attending the church and how you did you find the church
• Tim shared that love does not become easily angered, how did your family manage conflict growing up?
Look Up (Looking Up at God’s perspective)
Tim shared the 6 ways to extinguish the fuse of anger are…..
1st: Resolve to manage the problem with my anger
“An angry person causes trouble...” Proverbs 29:22
“A foolish person loses his temper. But a wise person controls his anger.” Proverbs 29:11
“...A wise man holds his temper and cools it.” Proverbs 29:11
2nd: Realize the cost of displaying anger
“A hot-tempered man...gets into all kinds of trouble.” Proverbs 29:22
“Hot tempers cause arguments...” Proverbs 15:4
“...anger causes mistakes.” Proverbs 14:29
“People with hot tempers do foolish things.” Proverbs 14:17
“The fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left.” Proverbs 11:29
3rd: Reflect before reacting to someone out of anger
“A stupid man gives free rein to his anger; A wise man waits and lets it grow cool.” Proverbs 29:11
“A wise person is patient.” Proverbs 19:11
4th: Release my anger appropriately
“If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin.” Ephesians 4:26
“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” Proverbs 29:11
5th: Re-pattern my mind
“...Be changed within by a new way of thinking.” Romans 12:2
6th: Relate to people who are patient
“...Don’t make friends with someone who easily gets angry. Don’t spend time with someone who has a bad temper. If you do, you may learn to be like him. Then you will be in real danger.” Proverbs 22:24-25 (EB)
“The fruit of the Spirit...is patience.” Galatians 5:22
• Out of the 6 options which is the one that would be most helpful to you in managing your anger and why?
• In the past how have you managed your anger?
Look In (Looking Into our my life)
Tim shared the pattern of behavior is a process where
1- The way you act is determined by the way you feel
2- The way you feel is determined by the way you think
• Do you agree or disagree and why?
• How has your thinking affected the way you act towards others?
Look Out (Looking Out and taking a Next Step from what you Learned)
Tim mentioned that when we get angry we should ask ourselves
1. Why am I angry?
2. What do I really want?
3. How can I get what I really want?
• Is this something you would be willing to work on this week?
• Who in the group could hold you accountable, call you, pray for you and check in on you this week to see how you are doing?
• Close by taking prayer requests
Purpose of your Crazy Love Group: If the greatest of all is love, we need to have a clear understanding of what God expects in the realm of love. The goal is to be challenged to a higher standard of relationships.
What’s the verse we are using? 1 Corinthians 13:4-8,13 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails."…now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."
Themes for each week of the Crazy Love series:
April 2/3: Love is not easily angered and keeps no records of wrongs
April 9/10: Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth
April 16/17: Love always trusts, protects, hopes, perseveres
Guidelines for your Group
1. Confidentiality: Whatever we share in the group stays in the group.
2. I statements: Speak about yourself; don’t share about someone else’s story.
3. Respect: Share your opinions and respect other people’s opinions.
4. Time: Show up on time or let someone know if you are running late.
5. Participate: Be willing to participate in the Acts of Love.
6. Mindfulness: Allow other people to speak; don’t dominate the time.
7. Fixing: Don’t try to fix someone; allow people their process.
8. Sharing: Be as honest as you feel capable of being about the topic.
9. Weekend: Try to come on the weekend for the 7 weeks to better prepare you for thelove group discussion.
10. Fun: Enjoy the people in your group and enjoy the journey God has you on concerning the topic.
Look Back (Looking Back over this past week)
• Review the covenant
• If you are new, make introductions, how long been attending the church and how you did you find the church
• Tim shared that love does not become easily angered, how did your family manage conflict growing up?
Look Up (Looking Up at God’s perspective)
Tim shared the 6 ways to extinguish the fuse of anger are…..
1st: Resolve to manage the problem with my anger
“An angry person causes trouble...” Proverbs 29:22
“A foolish person loses his temper. But a wise person controls his anger.” Proverbs 29:11
“...A wise man holds his temper and cools it.” Proverbs 29:11
2nd: Realize the cost of displaying anger
“A hot-tempered man...gets into all kinds of trouble.” Proverbs 29:22
“Hot tempers cause arguments...” Proverbs 15:4
“...anger causes mistakes.” Proverbs 14:29
“People with hot tempers do foolish things.” Proverbs 14:17
“The fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left.” Proverbs 11:29
3rd: Reflect before reacting to someone out of anger
“A stupid man gives free rein to his anger; A wise man waits and lets it grow cool.” Proverbs 29:11
“A wise person is patient.” Proverbs 19:11
4th: Release my anger appropriately
“If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin.” Ephesians 4:26
“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” Proverbs 29:11
5th: Re-pattern my mind
“...Be changed within by a new way of thinking.” Romans 12:2
6th: Relate to people who are patient
“...Don’t make friends with someone who easily gets angry. Don’t spend time with someone who has a bad temper. If you do, you may learn to be like him. Then you will be in real danger.” Proverbs 22:24-25 (EB)
“The fruit of the Spirit...is patience.” Galatians 5:22
• Out of the 6 options which is the one that would be most helpful to you in managing your anger and why?
• In the past how have you managed your anger?
Look In (Looking Into our my life)
Tim shared the pattern of behavior is a process where
1- The way you act is determined by the way you feel
2- The way you feel is determined by the way you think
• Do you agree or disagree and why?
• How has your thinking affected the way you act towards others?
Look Out (Looking Out and taking a Next Step from what you Learned)
Tim mentioned that when we get angry we should ask ourselves
1. Why am I angry?
2. What do I really want?
3. How can I get what I really want?
• Is this something you would be willing to work on this week?
• Who in the group could hold you accountable, call you, pray for you and check in on you this week to see how you are doing?
• Close by taking prayer requests
The Finneran group just finished up and we gotta say 1 thing............F-U
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